"I stopped kissing him..because every kiss felt like a contract I didn't want to sign."

She said it without anger.

They’re still together, but not with each other.

This is so common. And so hard to talk about. And no—this doesn’t mean the relationship is broken beyond repair.
But it does mean: something inside needs attention.

👉 Is it a desire issue?
👉 Is she carrying some old resentment or unspoken emotional pain?
👉 Is there a deeper turn-off that’s never been named?

These questions are where therapy begins.

Most couples wait too long. But when they do start therapy, many are surprised at how much intimacy can be rebuilt—gently, at their pace, with the right guidance.
Because therapy isn’t about forcing sex. It’s about understanding the blocks, healing them, and creating safety to connect again.

If you—or someone you know—is going through something similar, Know that this is more common than you think.

And there is help. But the right kind of help matters.

I’m Aashita Khanna, a clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist. I work with couples who feel stuck in silence, distance, or desire confusion. You don’t have to live disconnected. Your relationship deserves closeness, not just coexistence.

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